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How to effectively numb your emotional pain as a gay man
The thoughts and feeling of loneliness are horrible. How do you numb them?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 2, 20214 min read
83 views
The art of finding true belonging as a gay man in the midst of loneliness
When you feel that you belong, you feel connected. When you don’t, you can feel lonely. Let me share my experience.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 18, 202111 min read
583 views
The Ultimate Guide to Making Friends as a Gay Man
Making friends is tough. Let me help you with that.
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 4, 20218 min read
7,061 views
How to have kick-ass boundaries
Getting our boundaries right is fucking hard when we're lonely. But they are such a profound gift of self-respect back to ourselves.
Kevin Moran
Oct 21, 20219 min read
129 views
Overcoming the loneliness of change: how Justin found connection during life transitions
Dark nights of the soul are horrible.
And needed.
Justin Oberste MA, AMFT
Oct 7, 20219 min read
399 views
2021: Your year of authentic connection - third progress check
How is your year of authentic connection going? Let's check in and find out.
Phil McAuliffe
Sep 23, 20215 min read
40 views
The loneliness of being gay in a straight marriage
To be a gay man in a straight marriage is to be disconnected from self.
Andrew Reid
Sep 9, 202110 min read
1,343 views
The pros and cons of using hook-up apps for finding connection
Best advice I’ve ever received about hook-up apps: ‘You will get fucked’
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 26, 20217 min read
250 views
Why your cracks are sexy
Yes, male asses are beautiful. So is kintsugi.
Phil McAuliffe
Aug 12, 20214 min read
72 views
The ultimate guide on finding your Prince Charming and living happily ever after
Waiting for your Prince Charming to save you from your loneliness? Wait no more!
Phil McAuliffe
Jul 29, 20214 min read
228 views
2021: Your year of authentic connection - second progress check
Let's check in to see how your year of authentic connection is going.
Phil McAuliffe
Jul 15, 20215 min read
46 views
2021 – Your year of authentic connection: first progress check
How is your year of authentic connection progressing?
Phil McAuliffe
Mar 4, 20214 min read
40 views
Finding comfort in shedding the labels you wear: Nathan's story will inspire you
What labels are you letting define you?
Nathan Todd
Feb 18, 20216 min read
62 views
The power of vulnerability: Why Reno says it's important to expose yourself to others
'I may destroy me' - Compassionate self-exposure as the path to personal freedom.
Reno
Feb 4, 20218 min read
297 views
How I build strong connections on a tight budget
Why does the gay lifestyle cost so much money?
Phil McAuliffe
Jan 21, 20215 min read
105 views
2021 - Your year of authentic connection
Let’s make 2021 your year of authentic connection
Phil McAuliffe
Jan 7, 20217 min read
53 views
The gift of loneliness: the powerful reframe that feeds connection
Is it time to open the gift of your loneliness this Christmas?
Phil McAuliffe
Dec 10, 20206 min read
72 views
The importance of true friendship in life for gay men.
We know that friendship is important, but what makes a friendship?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 26, 20208 min read
228 views
Discovering the true you: unpacking the question "Who Are You?"
If putting yourself out into the world is the cure to loneliness, who are you?
Phil McAuliffe
Nov 12, 20206 min read
83 views
The link between shame and loneliness: how I broke the cycle
Shame begets loneliness. Loneliness begets shame. Let’s turn our shame into our ally.
Phil McAuliffe
Oct 29, 202013 min read
654 views
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